Framework for developing companies beyond design thinking processes — Copyright Irina Damascan 2020

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What’s beyond design thinking processes? — part 1

Since we know that design thinking was created for problem-solving and is meant to be a process preoccupied with narrowing concerns, we need to zoom out of this bubble and see what is beyond that. Before this, in the 1960s companies were not thinking of innovation the way we do…

What matching socks and relationships have in common

We first learn relationships through the codependent nature of our bond to the caretakers. We need our parents to survive and we think that relationships with a romantic partner will also be as codependent as this. We would feel we don’t have air anymore without our partner and that’s exactly the kind of toxic relationship we want to avoid. That’s where the socks analogy comes in place.

Most often we run into problems in our relationships when we have a certain set of expectations that don’t overlap the blueprint of our partner. Once the first compatibility tests are passed by a couple, the ultimate compatibility is being able to adjust, compromise and collaborate in making the life…

How to overcome the latency of unhealed trauma without clouding years of your life

For most people who feel sad and depressed, the first action they take is to get on anti-depressives and carry on with life as usual. But there is another way to go about this without involving drugs which only add up to bottling up emotions in the body: emotional healing therapies!

Being able to accommodate uncertainty in life is part of the development stage explained in Bowlby’s theories on attachment when the child learns to detach themselves from the parent. That detachment is the part where the child learns to take care of themselves in the world. …

Redesigning the way we grief death

The problem with death is that too often we connect it to a cemetery. And that is becoming especially important for religions like Christian Orthodox ones. But there’s a systemic root cause of why this is happening and we are not getting it solved for centuries because we can’t think straight when we’re grieving.

From a very young age, I hated cemeteries. Not just the places but also anything that would lead to thinking of such a place where there is so much grief gathered in one place. It felt like the dark whole that would drag you in it and you’d not be…

The ruthless ATS that blocks you from landing your dream job

Digitalization of recruitment going through the age of Applicant Tracking Systems is proving to leave a lot of “humans” out of the workforce. This article goes in-depth about a problem we already face in recruitment for some years and will be even more intensified by the millions of job seekers left in unemployment due to Corona and automation of processes using RPA ( robotic processing applications).

If you’ve been looking for a job lately, you’ve probably seen how many rejections you get without any feedback.

Even more so, personalization systems fail to actually include your name in the rejection letter! That stings!

The ATS-es help companies process the applications of hundreds of candidates a lot faster…

What does it mean to be unapologetic?

“Say you’re sorry like you really mean it!” If you’ve heard this and you felt ashamed and guilty for not really being “honest” enough for the person who asked you this, then you’ve probably been gaslighted and you don’t even know it!

This is the line I’ve heard from my mom back in my childhood every time I would get her upset about something that I didn’t consider my fault but had to apologize for it anyway. …

Outspoken: How to “tune down” your voice without losing it

On Medium, writers like that are called indie writers because they are raw, honest, real, and connect deeply with their audience. But in real life, they are called outspoken uncomfortable activists. The rule of thumb is that the less someone agrees with your openly expressed thoughts, the more uncomfortable you become for them.

The problem of freely speaking your mind in a lot of circumstances is that it jeopardizes your chances of getting accepted by the group especially if they quietly agree to turn a blind eye to the reality you are pointing out to. In many cases, the role of advocacy groups…

What’s the difference between self-compassion and self-care?

Actually, the difference couldn’t be bigger but a lot of millennials confuse the terms because the media industry is bombing them with ads and content on self-care selling it as the value of self-compassion.

As this article says:

We sometimes use “self-care” as a proxy for “self-compassion.” But they’re actually different concepts. Self-compassion is regarding yourself compassionately. Self-care, by contrast, is treating yourself compassionately. The two terms sound interchangeable, but they contain a thinking versus doing distinction.

What compassion is all about is the…

How to stop the emotional enmeshing with a codependent partner

Our feelings are valid! All of them! But sometimes we lose ourselves in the emotions of our partners and we allow them to become more important than our inner voice and needs. The way in which we allow the dynamic of our emotions to be prioritized in relationships with others makes us the more emotionally mature people in the room. Not that this was the goal, but let’s see what should be the goal in these intense moments.

Learning to be aware of our emotions, to label them, to control our reactions to them, and to regulate them and their intensity is probably just as important as learning to walk “professionally”. Most people think that once you got the basics of it, you’re done with learning. …

For most people who feel sad and depressed, the first action they take is to get on anti-depressives and carry on with life as usual. But there is another way to go about this without involving drugs which only add up to bottling up emotions in the body: emotional healing therapies!

“Say you’re sorry like you really mean it!” If you’ve heard this and you felt ashamed and guilty for not really being “honest” enough for the person who asked you this, then you’ve probably been gaslighted and you don’t even know it!

Actually, the difference couldn’t be bigger but a lot of millennials confuse the terms because the media industry is bombing them with ads and content on self-care selling it as the value of self-compassion.

Irina Damascan